My name is Tom and in a day or two I will be posting a long and detailed letter explaining things in great detail. To get started though I and two others are currently being reamed from behind by the agency supposedly designed to help families. The three of us have lost are children to these lying criminals, and by their corrupt actions, our combined children (and us for that matter) are being mentally and emotionally hurt. As an over view of the letter to follow, my ex filed claims that the three of us sexually abused my children. Since that claim more false accusations have spawned from the Children, Youth and Families Department. Even though we have not seen any proof of any knd we have all been to jail and are awaiting indictment. Interestingly enough four of the six combined children are on video tape stating nothing happend, this still does no good at this point. Im not going to go into great detail yet, but if asked I have nothing to hide. We are all at our wits end and if this can even just get our voice heard it is worth it.
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Thank you Tom for putting this out there. You don't know how much it means to me that you are making this public for all of us. I am one of the accused-I also have nothing to hide, anyone can pose questions to me as well. Please, if any one can help-our children are being hurt by the state's actions!
ReplyDeleteThis letter is an attempt to reveal my side of a biased, one sided case against me and two other innocent people. My name is Tom, and we are being accused of molesting my own two children. Somehow, and only one explanation comes to mind, my children made statements after Labor Day weekend. Now the interesting thing is these are my ex’s claims, yes I realize that my children now say this, but spoke to no one else. How can it NOT be said that they were coached? Why did no one go and talk to the daycare or elementary schools that my kids attend? These people are trained to see signs of abuse, yet in the two days following Labor Day weekend, no claims or comments were made and those are the first people to see the kids after the allegations. It’s because nothing happened!
ReplyDeleteIn the paragraphs to come I’m going to break down the last few years of my life and bring to the light, I hope, the truth of the situation. See at this point only those who have witnessed my life know what I am about to write to be true, and I have a list of names that would be more than willing to make a statement validating everything you are about to read. The two others involved are my uncle by marriage Brian and his wife Trish. My ex has a hatred for them because they have helped me greatly in these last few years, and jealousy probably plays a part in that hatred. They have loaned me money in times of need, Trish and her sister have babysat for me and at several points Brian has even watched the kids for my ex!
Let’s go backwards a bit… On October 27, 2006 my ex and I broke up after five plus years. At first it had potential to be temporary; her actions over the next few months however changed that. The night we broke up, my ex ran out the front door with a steak knife, threatening to kill herself. Brian was the one to run out after her and ultimately stop her. She did however stab the passenger seat of my truck. In the first month or so she went and lived with mutual friends of ours, but she never helped around the house or paid rent, so she got kicked out. This wouldn’t have been a real problem, but I had to get a second job after we broke up to avoid losing my truck and get my bills caught up. So as it was, for about a month, I only got to see the kids on the weekends and I had no way to keep them while she found a place. If I remember correctly, on December 14, 2006 she picked up the kids to take them to her dads, I didn’t see my kids again until just before March 2007. Turns out she had just filed custody papers and I had no legal right to see my kids until an order stated so. During this time and the entire year to follow, my pedophile father will set into motion an abuse case against Brain and his girlfriend. I’ll return to that later.
Now in March we signed and agreed to a 50/50 time sharing plan with alternating weekends and no child support for either of us, although I did cut her a check for $3000.00, for the time I didn’t see the kids (fair huh?). All she had to do was keep a job; I had a babysitter she could use. Well it turns out that in a few weeks she would disappear. Around the second week of April 2007 she had gotten fully back on drugs, meth to be specific. As a result she didn’t see the kids until mid July 2007, lost her house, lost her job and had nowhere for the kids to stay. Did I destroy her? No. Did I prevent her from seeing the kids? Only until she could pass a Urine Test. Did I make her pay me $3000.00? No. Instead I gave her a chance. I told her to get her act together, pull her head out of her ass and be a real mom!
The next month in August we had court again, and I agreed to switch the custody around to make it easier on her, and she did do better at seeing the kids. I had them the majority of the time since she was couch surfing, but she did spend time with them. Now in October I believe, she moved to California for a few weeks, but eventually came back. When she did, she eventually got a place in the mountains with some friend of hers. I had to make multiple trips out of my way to drop off and pick up the kids, but it was ok, at least they got to see their mom. Now in November 2007 things were going bad again, and I didn’t want the kids to go to that house anymore, because the roommate’s boyfriend freaked out and allegedly pulled a gun. So doing the only thing that seemed fit I invited my ex to come live in my house again. She could save me babysitting costs and spend more time with the kids. She agreed and moved back in, and in December I even loaned her $1000.00 for Christmas (never saw a penny back even to this day). Ironically enough on New Year’s Day at about 1 a.m. my ex was arrested for DWI, she beat the charges only because the officer failed to appear.
ReplyDeleteWell as all things do, the good times ended, and she moved out around February. She went and stayed with a different mutual friend for about two months, and surprise surprise she moved again. This puts us about May of 2008 now, and though I don’t think drugs were a factor (they could have been), over the next few months she began to flake out on seeing the kids again. Now unfortunately the economic downfall had started happening and I needed a job as well, and for the sake of work and my growing animosity for this state, I decided to move to Oklahoma to look for a job and a place for my family. With this in mind I moved my ex back in my house rent free to make sure our son got to school. Needless to say I couldn’t make it work in Oklahoma and I moved back. It’s during this time that my ex began asking Brian to babysit for her. Also needless to say it only lasted a few months before living with my ex became a problem again. This time however she had a new boyfriend, and proceeded to move in with him.
She moved in with him in early November and problems with my ex holding up her end of the custody began again. In December my ex is involved in a car wreck (kids were with a sitter), where her boyfriend was arrested for DWI and possession of marijuana, and was determined at fault for the crash. Not sure how that one ended. This will more or less conclude 2008 as a whole and bring us to 2009, the year my life as I knew it ended. In early 2009 it was standard bickering between me and my ex because of her failing to get the kids when she was supposed to, this changed in March when my ex filed a bogus protection order against me. She claimed that while at my house to pick up our kids I threatened to kill her. Now she had already called the police claiming I violated our custody order by not taking our 3 year old daughter to our son’s elementary school. So within a few moments of her arriving at my house to get our daughter, a uniformed officer showed up. He spoke to her and to me, despite the fact she made no comments of threats to the officer, she went directly to the court and took my kids for two weeks.
We had court on the 16th of March for the Domestic Violence claims, Brian loaned me money for a lawyer, and she had subpoenaed the officer from that day as a witness. Simply put the restraining order was dismissed with prejudice, meaning I can’t be charged for that particular instance ever again. She lied, couldn’t prove it, and that was it. Now as a result of a motion for sole custody by my ex, we had custody court on April 20th 2009. At that court date the judge set a minute order in place stating that we were to conduct an in home advisory consultation with court appointed doctor within 10 days. Also because my ex is a liar and needed more ammo, she asked the judge that the kids were not to be in the presence of my father (which was fine), Brian (because of the abuse charges I mentioned in the beginning) or a former roommate of mine. Now I contacted the doctor and had two separate meetings with him, the first being in early May and the second in mid May.
ReplyDeleteThe first visit with Dr. Rinaldi was at his office, where I told him my concerns that 1. Both my kids had told me that if they were bad they got “closet time” 2. If caught lying they got either hot sauce or a jalapeno put in their mouth and 3. That from what I’ve seen of it, the apartment she lives at is only a 1 bedroom. That means that the kids have no room and are potentially sleeping in the same bed. It was determined that we needed to do in home meetings and mine was set up for a few days later. At that meeting the Dr. showed up at dinner time walked through the house, took a look at the bedrooms and spoke with the kids. He then told me that at that point she still never contacted him and he would submit his recommendations as such. She to this day, has still not contacted him and the court never received any paperwork.
Now I haven’t really put too much detail in each paragraph on the rather frequent failures, on my ex’s behalf, with being consistent on getting the kids on her days. There are just too many occurrences to list, but if what I have included didn’t explain it enough, her lack of reliability greatly outweighs her reliability. Either way as a result of me working, it was my girlfriend at the time that had to deal with the brunt of it. Over the course of 2009 my girlfriend had dealt with too much, and on September 3rd 2009 (nine days before our anniversary, but over a year and a half total time) she broke up with me. As she put it, between being a step mom figure to my kids and my ex regularly not getting the kids when she was supposed to was more than she could take. I understood, it crushed me, but I understood. This brings us to the center of my nightmare.
I was feeling overly sorry for myself and on Friday the 5th of September, I went to pick up my kids. My ex asked if she could keep our daughter an extra night, so they could go to some family reunion thing with her boyfriend. I said sure why not. That night I took my son to his cousin’s birthday party, since April my children had not seen their uncle, only their cousins and Aunt. At the party it was decided that for his birthday and Labor Day they would go camping. I was extended an invitation, and with not wanting to spend the weekend at home since my girlfriend left, I accepted. This was my only mistake. I realize that I should have just sucked it up, but we as humans are emotionally driven creatures, and my emotional weakness cost me dearly. It is in this same reason I feel my ex is causing this. She’s mad at me because my life now isn’t as bad as hers now, and blames me for it. She’s probably still hurt that we broke up in the first place.
I called my ex and asked if she would like to keep our daughter an extra night, she agreed I would pick her up Sunday at 5, late Saturday afternoon we arrived at Cochiti Lake. The first night there was all camp set up and dinner, except that after the kids were in bed (the boys in one tent, the girls in another and adults in a third) Brian (the uncle by marriage) and I went late night fishing at the dock. It was cold and starting to rain so we packed up and headed back to camp. The next morning we got up, ate breakfast and decided to take the kids fishing. We spent a few hours fishing and on a humorous note, the birthday boy slipped off the dock. Scary yes, but I am a terrific swimmer and was in the water in seconds, I also was a life guard trainee as a youth and have had both CPR and first aid certifications. He was fine.
ReplyDeleteSo eventually we head back to camp and Brian and I left back so I could get my daughter. At this point I guess I should have just stayed home, but I felt it unfair that my son got to go camping and fishing but my little girl didn’t. Either way I picked her up and returned to the lake. It was too late to do anything Sunday when we got back, so the kids just ran around and I even joined in a couple games of freeze tag with them. We proceeded to eat dinner and later around dark we toasted marshmallows. Everyone was having a great time. There were three boys ages 6, 6 and 8 and three girls ages 3, 4 and 9. All the kids have played with each other for years, they are each other’s family, and it wasn’t fair that they didn’t get the time together that they used to. All this justified my being there in my eyes.
Moving along, Monday (Labor Day), we took all the kids fishing again. Again the kids had a blast, and go figure, in the middle of a truly wonderful cast my son flung himself off the edge of the dock. Once more I was headed to the water, and not too long after that we headed to the swimming side of the lake. This would be the end of our camping trip. Just after dinner time/dark I took my kids home, I had to work in the morning and my son had school. Now is when I would like to mention that in order for me and the other two adults to have done what we’re accused of, it would have had to happen Sunday night. Here it is only going to be Tuesday morning, barely 48 hours after, and my son is in class at school and my daughter at La Petite Academy. If the kids had been molested to the extent they are claiming 1. Why would I even send them to school/daycare the next day? 2. How did trained, professional teachers not notice? Again BECAUSE NOTHING HAPPENED!
Continuing. Wednesday around noon I got a phone call from my son’s elementary school nurse. It seems my son was complaining of burning when he went pee, and they felt he may have a UTI or bladder infection. It made sense to me, he probably drank some lake water on accident and it messed up his insides a bit. Since I was on a job site in Albuquerque, would need to get a ride back to Rio Rancho and my ex was to get the kids that day anyway, I called her and asked if she would just go and pick them up. That morning when I dropped the kids off at La Petite, was to date the last time I saw my babies. I was supposed to pick them back up on Sunday the 13th at 5p.m. After being almost 30 minutes late my ex finally replied to a text message that said “Sorry ur fuct. The kids told us and we are having them talk to the police. This will be the only contact from us until court. If you try to come over here you will be treated as hostile”.
I called the cops, filed police reports, had an escort meet me at her apartment and filed court papers against my ex. Nothing could be done; at that point she had not violated any criminal law, only a civil matter. Wednesday the 16th Brian’s fiancé received a phone call from CYFD (Children Youth and Families Department) that they needed to meet with her. At that meeting CYFD took all four kids into state custody and told Trish (Brian’s now wife) that there are four of us being accused of molesting all six children (this included the girl I had been seeing for over a year). Two days later on Friday the 18th Trish was arrested, after full cooperation with both CYFD and the police. Within a week they got warrants for me and Brian and all three of us were in jail. The fourth was questioned a few days later, but nothing further occurred with her, and I believe they know she is innocent.
ReplyDeleteNot previously mentioned is the case worker that called, was the same case worker that had ruined Brian’s name in 2007, and investigated me twice. The long and the short of that case was my dad did touch their eldest daughter. During the initial interview the little girl said it was Tom (my father)and her dad, but in the interview to come a 30+ minute time gap occurred between when she was taken in and when the tape began, and suddenly Brian was accused instead of her real father. My dad copped a plea and Brian’s charges were eventually dismissed, but in way so that they could try him again later. It was a long and painful trial for him, and because of my dad’s involvement I ended up getting investigated by the same case worker in 2007 and 2008. Short and sweet on mine is in 07 I was investigated for abuse and neglect because my son at age 4, was having bed wetting accidents, couldn’t count to 100, didn’t know his alphabet and my daughter at age 2 was shy around new people. Case was closed for obvious reasons. In 08 I was investigated again by the same lady because they claimed my father was living with me post his conviction in 07. This could have been avoided due to him being in jail, as I had turned him in to the police for absconding on his parole. I was never informed of that case being closed.
The details of our court cases are minimal and at the moment we are all waiting for a grand jury indictment. Brian and Trish are still fighting in court to get their kids back from the state, and it’s looking pretty good, minus the fact that the kids are still divided and in foster care. On my end however, since the kids are placed with my ex and not in state custody, I have to fight her backed by CYFD alone. Currently I am to have no contact with my kids on the grounds that CYFD, not a court, believes I abused my kids. To date no one has made any attempts to contact me directly for a statement, the only time I was asked was when I was arrested. I agreed but when I asked if I could have a lawyer present they said never mind.
Let’s recap now. I’ve been fighting for three years now with my ex, and based on the facts, she was bound to be revealed as less fit than me. This is why she never conducted the advisory consultation and I suspect her influence in the claims my kids have made. With court pending and her failure to comply with the advisory consultation, she had to take advantage of the opportunity that I unfortunately handed her. When I got the text message on that Sunday in September, I figured she knew I went camping with Brian, and was going to use that. Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever thought that this would happen. So this is my current standing: I haven’t seen my kids in over 3 months, I lost my job, had to sell anything I have of value, my house is in danger of foreclosure, I have to pay my ex child support and I’m awaiting a grand jury indictment where I’ll be facing 54 years for my charges. I’m broke so I can’t hire a lawyer and my public defender, though smart, is not going to go out of his way for me. Not when he has as many cases as he does.
of his way for me. Not when he has as many cases as he does.
ReplyDeleteThere are too many holes in the accusations by my kids, and the other four kids are on tape saying no abuse occurred there. So how is it that we were able to get two different kids out of two different tents, without waking up the other kids, and then proceed to have three adults molest them in what was referred to as a “white thing”? This is what my son told them, though he didn’t know what it was nor describe what it looked like. It couldn’t be a tent because he knows what that is; none of our vehicles are white. So where in Cochiti Lake campground is a “white thing” big enough to hold three adults and two kids, yet still secluded enough to avoid being seen by park rangers patrolling or any other campers? Let’s remember its Labor Day weekend and literally every campsite was filled. I know I can not be the only one who thinks this sounds like crap, but it’s still the foundation of the state’s case.
I’m pretty much out of options, and despite everything you just read, I’m the accused monster. That keeps the deck stacked against me, so that all of this now comes off as retaliation, and no one wants to hear it. Which like I said before, you can ask anyone who knows me, I’m telling the truth. I am not the only one who has seen her in action, and it seems to do me no good. I don’t really know what else to say or do, I’m at a loss. This is basically my last chance. I hope that whoever you are that reads this will see the flaws in what’s happening here and maybe with luck can help. Three possibly four people’s lives are being wrongfully destroyed, and anyone (with an unbiased opinion) that looks at the details of this will see it’s false. I thank you for taking the time to read this, that by itself means multitudes to me.
Since I can't see or be with him today. Happy Birthday Tommy. I love you, Daddy.
ReplyDeletehere is a link to my blog site as well. Please pass this on to anyone that might be able to help
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Hello, This is NMAngryMom. I would like to speak with you privately about our options to get this agency criminally charged. Please contact me. abq.1968@yahoo.com. Thank you
ReplyDeleteThank you for visiting my blog and letting me know about yours. I'm going to put a link to it on my blog so that others can read your story. I've heard so many similar stories over the past year and it's unbelievable how many parents these days are being falsely accused of sexual abuse by the other parent. Judges are too afraid not to believe the children unless the "offending" parent is rich. Justice can be bought in this country, and nowhere is that more apparent than in family court. If parents can't afford to buy their children back from CPS, they're going to lose them. Please update your blog as often as possible. The more you update and inform, the higher in the search engines you go. People need to know they're not alone. While David and I were never accused of sexual abuse, after we won our appeal, they tried to bring it in. They're corrupt and out of control. http://cpsasystemoutofcontrol.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteI want to thank all who have commented on my blog. It has been difficult for me to add to this for some time now. Currently nothing to report really. I still have not seen my babies since Sep of 09, I have a child support enforcement hearing in a week. However, I am not afraid, and this is my message. "Do not assume I am broken. I am a now a single man who has had his children taken wrongfully, and because of that, I have nothing left but my vengence! They make think they are winning, but I have only just begun to fight!". To any reading pray for me, for those who oppose me, pray for yourself. I will bring about a change like this system has never seen. You messed with the wrong single dad...
ReplyDeleteThere is a remedy for our situations I am in the midst of doing this now. But before you start with this remedy its very important that you understand what has been going on behind our backs in this country. Mainly the issues began when woodrow wilson changed how our money system works. This ties into the government abuses of the people then after. Adolf Hitler said once " I did not come here to make better men, I came to exploit his weaknesses to use to my advantage" This is where the war on poverty and the war on drugs starts reeling in their ugly heads. There have always been poor people and there have always been societies where drug use was an active part in peoples lives to some degree. All medications are drugs even caffeen is a drug, asprin, cough syrup, ect are all drugs. Up in till the 20's opium was regularly used to cure ailments of sickness and pain. They started with the prohibition of alcohol making it illegal and trying to enforce unjust sentences upon people who continued to use or make their own alcohol. In the 30's coming out of the depression people were having to be resourceful in finding work. Many began to use and exploit situations for their hidden agenda's and the time was ripe for the public to believe anything printed or said in the news. What we have going on today is a major exploitation of crisis issues going out of control with no accountability. People do not have rights because they unknowingly gave up these for privileges which the states may take away anytime they choose. You get no protection in court because you are not you -your a slave to the system and you willingly gave up all rights to be considered anything else. Please watch on youtube a short series of video's called "are you sovereign yet" with the guy in the white shirt and tie.
ReplyDeleteThe only remedy from the abuse is to educate yourself on sovereignty, common law, our money system, the constitution, articles of confederation, the magna charta, treaties of great peace, declaration of independence, bill of rights, the american revolution, and to become a member of two organizations who are at this moment enforcing change by using common law . Join restore america plan and county grand jury.org - we are needing as many members in every state to join forces and we can win if we have the numbers backing our mission- you get no where by yourself.
see google video "money masters" and g edward griffin "an idea whose time has come"
please watch these and join the sites mentioned
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This is being looked into by Tea Party activists and an Oathkeepers' victim of the same group.
ReplyDeleteI pray for you and our country.